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July 31, 2010

Weekends

Why is it that all I want to do on the weekends is play? My 2 days off should be spent playing and swimming and hanging out with friends and family.

That being said, there will not be much housework done this weekend. If you come over to visit, excuse the mess. I am sure there is a dirty floor or toilet in my house. I'll get to it. Eventually.

E

July 30, 2010

Annoying Questions One Should Never Ask

There are some people in the world who think that they should know everyone's business. But, there is a fine line that they walk. There are just some questions people should never ask. They get asked TOO many times in certain circumstances.

Simple Disclaimer: I've been married for over 8 years and have one child. I've heard it all.


Example 1: You got married a few months ago. Congrats.
You will begin to hear this question almost daily, "So, how's married life?" One should always answer, "Terrible. Worst mistake I ever made." Bet they won't ask again. To anybody. Ever.

Now, you've enjoyed a wonderful first year of marriage. Congrats again. You've endured all the "How's married life?" questions. Now onto the next annoying question.


"When are ya'll going to have a baby?"

There are many versions of this particular question that might be asked.

"When you going to spit out a youngun?"

"You aren't getting any younger. When are you going to have a baby?"
My all-time favorite (and it's not even a QUESTION), "Girl, you need to give your parents a grandkid!"


I am amazed at the people that ask these questions too. It's not just your mom's best friend. It's people you RARELY see but seem to know everything about you!


Now, time for the MOST annoying question to anyone with children.


"When are you going to have another one?"

I mean, you could be at Kroger with a 6 week old and they would be asking you this question. I absolutely love my OB-GYN but he asked me the this question! I was shocked. There is a time to try and ramp up your business and when my uterus is still in shock would NOT be that time.


There is never a good time to ask when one might choose to bear offspring. There are also times when you don't know what the circumstances are. If the person has a 15 year old and is still of childbearing age, it's still not ok to ask when she might reproduce again. If their child is 5, it pretty much means that if they haven't had another at this point, your asking is not going to make them want to get pregnant at that moment. Plus, you never know what someone is going through in their personal life. They may be having infertility issues. They may have recently had a miscarriage. Even though they choose to be private in their issues, it does not help having someone tell you that it's time to have another child when they recently lost a baby. You will never be ready for those questions.


There is only one person in the world that can answer that question for you and that's God. It's His decision when you will be blessed with children. Not yours. Not your neighbor down the street. Not the lady bagging your groceries.
I hope this helps you when you see that girl you went to high school with 15 years ago who has been married now for 5 years with no children yet. WHAT? Who does that? A lot of people. Ask her how she's been doing. Ask her what's she's been doing. Ask about her family. Ask about the weather. Ask anything but the above annoying questions.

The world will thank you. As will I.

E

July 29, 2010

Welcome!

You know, I read a lot of blogs. Probably way too many, actually. Some of the people I know very well. Some of the people I know of. Some of the people I don't know at all. Of the ones I read, probably 95% of them paint this picture of how grand life is. So I got to thinking. Is this really how their life is? I doubt it. But not many of them want to talk about the REAL things going on in their lives. That's what I plan to do! Finally, a blog that is keeping it real!

I hope you enjoy! Please let me know if there are any topics that you would like me to discuss! Good, bad, or ugly, I hope to tackle them all.

Stay along for the ride!